Wednesday, May 18, 2011

I'm a serial dater.

Hi blog loves...

I'm back.  Like I could really stay away- please.   Thank you all so much for your support and your willingness to just let me vent and make my own decisions.  Let's be honest- we all know I wouldn't really close down my blog (I love blogging), I just needed to process the events that have happened in the last week or so.  Anyway- now let's get on to the juice.

I had another date tonight.  The last one?  Well...he was 25.  I'm 33.  Let's just say we're in different places.  Before him, I can't even remember the last guy in his 20's that I've dated.  Those of you who have known me since the beginning, remember that my last boyfriend was 42 (he's 43 or 44 now) so obviously I like them a little older.  Anyway- I called him to return some items to him and next thing I know he was able to finagle another date out of me for Monday.  Sigh.  I'm such a pushover.

Anyway, tonight I had a date with another guy- this one is from Arizona.  Interestingly enough- I met him while waiting for the 25 yo to show up last week for dinner.  I was sitting at the bar in a local restaurant waiting for youngin and this guy started talking to me and ended up asking me out.  We had a great date!  He is also in his thirties and the difference in age is sooo evident to me.  He doesn't actually live here though. :(  He commutes every week from AZ.  He flies in Monday morning at like- 8 and then leaves Friday night at 5.   We had a lot of good things to talk about and the time went by quickly.  We have date two set up for next week.  I appreciate a guy that knows how to take care of a woman- wine and dine doors for them, etc.  The thing that is so interesting to me is that these last 2 guys have really opened up to me and told me a lot about themselves.  I feel like I'm actually connecting to them on a deeper level then what normally happens on a first date.  It's happened twice now- I'm not sure if I'm just asking more questions...but something is causing these guys to open up to me.  I'm not even sure if this is normal or even good- but I kind of like it and am going with it for now.

So the conversation was good, the vibe was good, everything was good but I'm still a little cautious.  He has been married before and though it was a brief stint- he admitted to me tonight that he's bitter towards marriage.  We discussed it quite a bit- and though he makes a good argument about why it doesn't matter if people get married or not- he still didn't change my mind about things.  I want to be with someone that is willing to take that final step with me, regardless of what anyone else says.  Don't get me wrong, I'm completely aware that tonight was date one and I'm not thinking or hoping -even a little- that this guy is the one- I'm just saying- it was kind of a pink flag to me.  We'll see...

If I'm laying it all out there- there is another guy in the works as well.  The Iron Worker.  My date with him is next week too.  I'm literally lining them up lately.  He wanted to go out this weekend but there is a church conference for singles coming up and I'm going to that instead.  I'm really on the prowl these days! Ha- it's the weight loss- I'm telling you.  Brings out a new confidence in me...

Keeping the options open...



  1. Somebody's on a roll! I LOL'ed at the part about you waiting for "youngin." Keep us posted, dear!


  2. Yay! Iron workers are fun! I work with a whole bunch of them ;) I am happy your out mingling! I think that the more your doing awesome! And maybe cause your now more confident with yourself which makes the guys feel more comfortable to talk to you! I don't know but yay!

  3. Many posts ago, when you were lamenting the drought in dates, several commenters mentioned that you just needed to focus on living your life--and that when you were feeling good about living that life, the men would be lined up at your door.

    Uh-hmmm. Taaaa Daaaah! :D

    Have fun. Don't overthink it, fierce girl. And stay cautious about the commuter. Double lives are quite common with that scenario.


  4. Hi there! Just came across your blog today. So I'm a new follower and just wanted to say hello :)

  5. Well thank GAWD you didn't delete! I would have hunted you down!

    I do not think you are a serial dater. I think you are interviewing potential life partners. It's a tough job, but clearly you must continue to wine and dine your way through it!

    And lastly-hellooo 135? Wasn't that just you saying you felt like you weren't doing good enough? Clearly you were wrong! So proud of you woman. Mwuah!

  6. I'm late to the party - but I freaking love this post!