tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343017465336098527.post4681754372626124212..comments2023-09-06T06:37:51.937-07:00Comments on Dizzy: Alone.Dizzy Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15873685708946396027noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343017465336098527.post-77721739426442091832011-05-06T18:03:48.846-07:002011-05-06T18:03:48.846-07:00This is heartwrenching. I wanted that girl to be ...This is heartwrenching. I wanted that girl to be a real, honest to goodness friend...not some self-absorbed in it for herself person. I'm mad at her and don't even know her. I hate that you have to learn this life lesson like this because I know your spirit and I know you want to believe EVERYONE has good in them. Dammit. I want to kick her for making you feel alone. You are NOT alone and you WILL surpass her and everyone's expectations on your own - just like always. Karma will get her - rest assured about that....xoxo♥ Drazil ♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/10177140029694038645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343017465336098527.post-56954507684242960692011-05-05T19:21:20.428-07:002011-05-05T19:21:20.428-07:00What a weasel!! Sorry but I am with you my trust w...What a weasel!! Sorry but I am with you my trust would be out the window. I would be furious too, but definitely remain cordial enough it doesn't make work awkward. Obviously she is just taking the easy sales because she knows you are clearly fantastic and better than her. She's going to be living on beans once she bogarts all the easy targets and actually has to work at it!<br /><br />Love you-Show her how a professional does it!Mrs. S. https://www.blogger.com/profile/12464177330075695852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343017465336098527.post-16624600989779310562011-05-05T18:07:06.047-07:002011-05-05T18:07:06.047-07:00OK. I have a question. When you say "we&quo...OK. I have a question. When you say "we" got together and split up the territory, did "we" include your boss, or was it just you and B having a bright idea?<br /><br />Apparently boss did become aware of the split, if he wasn't in on it at the begining, because you said he KNEW that he supported her in taking an appt in your territory. He knew, but was he all on board with it?<br /><br />If he was WELL aware that the appointment should have been yours, and he didn't discuss it with you, you may want to mention it to him when you're feeling calmer. Nothing high drama. Nothing intense. Just a mention.<br /><br />What you don't want to do--I know you know this--is create drama. Bosses hate having to put out fires. <br /><br />Your boss has assigned two reps to one territtory, it only makes sense that he'll be comparing you. He'll be looking for the player who is stronger in both sales ability and overall fit with the company. <br /><br />He'll be looking for who brings more cards to the table and requires less effort on his part to get the job done--let that be you. If B is playing the cute helpless one, you'll come out as the stronger, more stable and capable one. You'll be the one he wants to keep on board. you'll be the one that is his go-to person. <br /><br />You are fully capable of doing this job well if anyone can. Talk yourself thru it.<br /><br />A final bit of advice, since I can't seem to help myself... Fierce girl, say what you mean and mean what you say. Don't do the I wanna sound nice two-step hoping that the other dancer knows the etiquette of that particular tango. Not everyone has been schooled in the back and forth of how to play nice.<br /><br />Hugs, Diz.<br /><br />DebAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343017465336098527.post-15431692918000433212011-05-05T11:26:01.099-07:002011-05-05T11:26:01.099-07:00I am sorry that this happened but I think that you...I am sorry that this happened but I think that you are going to need to worry about yourself. I think B is a swindler and she is using the whoa is me as a ploy. Screw that shiznit. You have to worry about Diz. And your not being greedy. She is not doing the right thing and her morals are poop in cheerios. So yes distance your self. And you will fly and if you plan on flying you need to let go of the shit that is weighing you down. Which is your self doubt! So go be the sunshine I know you are.Ms. Chunky Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00040326465746097157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343017465336098527.post-28904800323447141472011-05-05T11:08:03.740-07:002011-05-05T11:08:03.740-07:00Oh Diz I'm sorry you're having to go throu...Oh Diz I'm sorry you're having to go through this. Like Josie said, you can be self reliant and ethical but not allow yourself to be put in this position again. B is obviously manipulative. You'll be fine, you're a smart, talented, beautiful person and remember - what goes around comes around. You're already a success!!!Lanaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10411623896047243610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343017465336098527.post-74949083482173225882011-05-05T10:15:25.791-07:002011-05-05T10:15:25.791-07:00These might be hard lessons for you, Dizzy, but I&...These might be hard lessons for you, Dizzy, but I'll bet money they're not lessons you'll be re-learning anytime soon. I learned the hard way that a competitive environment is a very hard place to make a friend, and it was difficult for me to see that because I was so blinded by smiling faces and reassurance that friendship meant more than ego. I'm not saying I was perfect, either.<br /><br />Be wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove. You can be completely ethical and self reliant, while at the same time learning what you need to know. Easy to say, but the only point that matters is, you know how to swim, Diz. You're very perceptive, and I'm sure that helps!<br /><br />Praying for you!<br /><br />xoxoAbsolutely, Positively Josiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390174411255786861noreply@blogger.com